Finding the Narrow Gate:
A Life of Humility and Sacrifice

A Reflection on Luke 13:22-30

Jesus doesn't waste words when He talks about the narrow gate. He tells us plainly that few will find it. Not few will look for it, few will actually find it and walk through it. Why? Because the narrow gate requires something most people absolutely refuse: to give complete surrender to God. We're talking about putting Him first in everything, not just on Sundays or when life gets hard, but every single moment of every single day. The narrow gate is a life of humility where God comes first, others come second, and you come last. That spells JOY: Jesus, Others, Yourself. But let's be honest, most people want the exact opposite of that. They want their stuff, their status, their comfort, their plans, their pride. They want to be in control. And that's why they'll never find the narrow gate.

Here's what the world has convinced people they need: success that everyone can see, money in the bank, a house that impresses the neighbors, a career that defines them, and enough possessions to prove they've made it. The world whispers constantly, "You deserve this. You earned this. You should have more. Don't let anyone tell you what to do with your life." And people eat it up because it feels good to be important, to be recognized, to be comfortable. But that's the wide gate, and it's packed with people who've made themselves the center of their own universe. Satan loves it because he's convinced them that self-focus is actually self-care, that pride is confidence, that greed is ambition. They're not evil people, they're just completely deceived. They think they're living the good life while they're actually walking away from the only life that matters. And the saddest part? They won't realize it until it's too late.

Walking through the narrow gate looks radically different. You wake up and your first thought is "What does God want from me today?" not "What do I want today?" You go to Mass not because you have to, but because you genuinely want to worship the God who made you. You give generously even when it hurts your budget because you know everything you have came from Him anyway. You serve others when you're exhausted because that's what Jesus did. You bite your tongue instead of lashing out because you're trying to be like Christ. You protect life, speak truth, stay pure, control your anger, kill your jealousy, and die to yourself daily. Daily. That's not an exaggeration. Every single day you're choosing God's will over your own desires. Every day you're saying, "Not my way, Lord, but Yours." That kind of humility goes against everything the world teaches. Society says assert yourself, stand up for your rights, don't let anyone push you around, get what's yours. But Jesus says deny yourself, pick up your cross, and follow Him. Those are two completely opposite directions.

So why do so few people choose this path? Because sacrifice is hard and humility feels like weakness in a world that celebrates self. Living for God alone means you might not get rich. You might not be famous. You might not have the biggest house or the fanciest car. You might be misunderstood, mocked, or left out because you won't compromise on truth. You'll have to forgive when you'd rather hold grudges. You'll have to be generous when you'd rather build your savings. You'll have to stay faithful to your commitments when others are bailing for easier options. The narrow gate costs you everything you think you want so you can gain everything you actually need. But most people can't see that trade-off as worth it. They're too attached to their comfort, their plans, their image. They want God to fit into their life, but they don't want their life to revolve around God. And Jesus is crystal clear, that won't work. You can't serve two masters. Either God is Lord of everything or He's Lord of nothing.

This is the decision we're making right now, today, at this moment. Which gate are we actually walking through? Not which one do we say we're choosing, but which one are we really living? Because you can sit in church every Sunday and still be on the wide path if your heart is focused on yourself the other six days. The narrow gate is total commitment. It's humility that says, "I'm nothing without God." It's sacrifice that proves "I love God more than my comfort." It's reverence that declares "God is God and I am not." One day, and that day is coming whether we're ready or not,  we'll stand before Jesus and give an account of our lives. Did we live for ourselves or for Him? Did we accumulate possessions and money and share it with no one or store up treasure in heaven? Did we chase the world's applause or seek God's approval? That's what matters. Not our résumé, not our bank account, not how many people liked our posts. The narrow gate strips away all the junk we think defines us and leaves only what's eternal: our love for God and our service to others. That's the life He created us for. That's where real joy lives. So, we need to be honest with ourselves right now about which path we're on, and if we're on the wrong one, we need to turn around while there's still time. The narrow gate is open. Jesus is calling. But we have to be willing to let go of everything we're clinging to and walk through it with empty hands and humble hearts.


©2025  James Dacey, Jr., OFS

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